If you’ve ever failed, you’ll know that it can sting. Your confidence can take a hit and your self-esteem will probably take a knocking too. Right here, at the low point of your journey, is where the crossroads between failure and success lies.
Failure – Friend, not Foe
The ones who go on to succeed are the ones who feel the pain, lick their wounds, then get up and try again. The ones who don’t succeed are the ones who stay down because they don’t want to experience those feelings again.
It’s not failing that will keep you from success, it’s the fear of failing that will keep you from success.
In fact, the majority of successful people have failed probably numerous times before. It’s estimated that the majority of first time entrepreneurs will fail, and that it usually takes three attempts before a business will succeed. Why? Because failure is a learning curve. Failure teaches us lessons, shows us where we’ve gone wrong. The fact that failure is seen as something negative in our society, and not the opportunity it is, means that people fear it. It’s not failing, but the fear of failing that will keep you from success.
Aim for Success
So how can you become resilient to failure?
Firstly, think positively. Every little failure is an opportunity to learn. Seek out the lessons in every failure – big and small – make a pact with yourself to learn from your mistakes.
Look at failure as your friend, and aim for success. If failure happens to come your way, let it teach you its lessons, and bounce back bigger and stronger than ever.
Stay focused. Keep your sights on your end goal. Don’t let yourself get sidetracked by unwarranted advice or the attitudes of people who don’t understand the true strength of failure.
Growing Through Failure
Remember that failure can make you a better person. It makes you more resilient, it makes you more creative, it forces you to find better ways to do things. It keeps your brain active, as you search for other answers and it keeps you motivated to do even better next time. It’s not the scale, the size, or even the fact of failure that counts. It’s finding and keeping the courage to get back out there again.